This weekend I went over to visit my mom and again she reminded me that I need to pick out my nappy hair into a fro, and not the curly look, b/c it's kinda curly looking, but really nappy looking...lol.  Keep in mind, we are good friends and this was in humor, but she is always honest, so nothing was taken to heart- we just joked around.  Another thing -she has been very supportive, as well as my twin sisters.  OK- we talked and she felt around in my hair and finally she got to gigglin' and she said-"I see people with their hair like this, and I didn't realize they were trying to form curls.....I just thought they weren't combing they're hair".......I said mama there's a lot we (blacks) don't know when we form opinions about one another.  She went on to say, still gigglin'.............."Ya know it kinda reminds me of our "cat's hair"......I said "What!!!!!"....She busted out laughin' and said really, ya know not like your kitten...."your "CAT"......"Oh my gooodness" Mama.......We were fallin out laughin and my 14 year old son could get the joke, thank God......but the conversation ended basically- She said well if you like it "Do You, baby- you're beautiful anyway".  So I learned that a lot of people really don't understand the natural process we go through, including those who are the closest to us, but it did end on a positive note, I just hope every time I look in the mirror I don't think about my "Cat".......LOL