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Last night I made the decision to cut my hair. I had been researching going natural for a few weeks and decided that it was for the best. I have been stuck in a cycle of relaxers to heavy breakage to cutting it short to braids and then to relaxers again. My beloved stylist told me I could no longer get relaxers and I need to just texturize and have her blow it out in between. Well this worked up until Dec. It had been about 4 months from my last text. and I went to get a touch up. Well she all cut about 5-6 inches off to even my hair out. Well last week my hubby said "why does it look like you're going bald in the back?" I need it just didn't feel right back there but because all of it was short, I just talked myself out of the idea it was breaking off. Well the breakage went all up the left side of my head. I have had enough of the damage and decided to cut it off without any transitioning. So my husband got the clippers and went to town. I asked him to leave me about an inch thinking I would get to cut that after it grew out but he just kept cutting. So I don't have a twa, its faded in the back with probably half inch on top. I think I'm still in shock. I don't hate it but I can't wait for it to grow out some and i'm torn if I can go out with it this short. I hate that I'm sooo self concious because I really shouldn't care what people think. I knew this was something I needed to do, not just for the sake of my hair but also because I need to accept myself as God created me, and work on inner beauty rather than outer. This is the hair He gave me and I need to find the beauty in it, because He doesn't make mistakes. This has been a struggle for me my entire life and I hope now I will begin a journey of true acceptance. I have no idea what to do with it, because I've never had it like this before and its too short to style. So if anyone reads this and has suggestions please share. I hope to get the courage to post a pic, soon. Peace and Love
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Hi R.A!
I know how frustrating can be this situation for you... My Natural Journey is very similar to yours... My hair was very healthy but I was not prepared to my Big Chop and I was not confortable with the length of my hair.. I wore a Wig for about 1 month and a half!
And what I can tell you is that if you give your hair the care enough it deserve, it will grow very fast... faster that you'll not notice!
I know that now you dont have the confidence to wear your hair at that lenght but trust me.. people will get shock the first 3 days.. after that.. they will get use to it!
I was so insecure the first time I wear my natural hair to go work... and amazingly the only way people asked me about it it was if the heard me talking about it... so if you are not prepared to give explanations about it dont even talk about it....!
I swear... Your hair will grow... beautiful and stronger!
Now will be challenging to stay natural and to love that hair but as the days goes by you will find how good and happy it is to embrace your natural estate!
Keep fit and strong..! Cuz in about 2 or 3 months you will enjoy the never felt freedom!
If you need anything I'm willing to help!
I know how frustrating can be this situation for you... My Natural Journey is very similar to yours... My hair was very healthy but I was not prepared to my Big Chop and I was not confortable with the length of my hair.. I wore a Wig for about 1 month and a half!
And what I can tell you is that if you give your hair the care enough it deserve, it will grow very fast... faster that you'll not notice!
I know that now you dont have the confidence to wear your hair at that lenght but trust me.. people will get shock the first 3 days.. after that.. they will get use to it!
I was so insecure the first time I wear my natural hair to go work... and amazingly the only way people asked me about it it was if the heard me talking about it... so if you are not prepared to give explanations about it dont even talk about it....!
I swear... Your hair will grow... beautiful and stronger!
Now will be challenging to stay natural and to love that hair but as the days goes by you will find how good and happy it is to embrace your natural estate!
Keep fit and strong..! Cuz in about 2 or 3 months you will enjoy the never felt freedom!
If you need anything I'm willing to help!
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February 01, 2010
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Thank you for the kind words of advice. I keep telling myself I don't care but I have yet to post any pics of me. I did show it to two people and both were pretty positive about it. Now I'm just in utter confusion of how to manage it. I feel the need to co wash it everyday because I usually work out but I don't want to end up drying it out more than it already is. How often should I do the co washes?
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February 04, 2010
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Hello Princess!
My first month I was looking like a boy.. my hair was really short,uneven and dry as hell.. so while i was looking for the best product choices 4 my hair I was cowashing my hair everyday... You hair will not be angry for that.. you can wash it everyday and exploit the fact that it will dry quickly! and if you dont want to wash it everyday do it in between days... or 2 times a week... choose the one of the 3 that works better for you!
I dont recomend to wash it once every week because natural can be very dry and also very absorbent so when you put something on it like a curl definer it can suck it and get dirty because of the residue that the product may leave! so wash it as much as you can!
Good luck!
My first month I was looking like a boy.. my hair was really short,uneven and dry as hell.. so while i was looking for the best product choices 4 my hair I was cowashing my hair everyday... You hair will not be angry for that.. you can wash it everyday and exploit the fact that it will dry quickly! and if you dont want to wash it everyday do it in between days... or 2 times a week... choose the one of the 3 that works better for you!
I dont recomend to wash it once every week because natural can be very dry and also very absorbent so when you put something on it like a curl definer it can suck it and get dirty because of the residue that the product may leave! so wash it as much as you can!
Good luck!
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February 09, 2010
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Hello R.A
Just wanted to encourage you- I was so excited to do the BC, when I actually did it....I was psched up.....that I did the Big Chop at home,and had to go to my beautician the next day to have it trimmed......when I left her shop- I thought I would wear my wig a month or so until I had a few inches, b/c I didnt have and inch, but when I got home my husband, who I can tell u hated my hair, hated my decision, and hates nappy hair, said- he thought it was neat enough- He said you don't need the wig- it brought out features that weren't as obvious...now don't get me wrong- it still took him a while to get use to it- he has the mentality that straight hair is what's supposed to be, but I'm very strong in what I believe- and I remind him that what is supposed to be is what God made and that is who I am before chemical and man-made changes and that continues to strengthen me in my journey.....I think the more you embrace the new you.....alone, by yourself, and just look and the beauty that God has made you.....Embrace yourself for who you are, and not what society thinks beauty should be it will become easier...I wish you all the luck and determination!!!
Tisha
Just wanted to encourage you- I was so excited to do the BC, when I actually did it....I was psched up.....that I did the Big Chop at home,and had to go to my beautician the next day to have it trimmed......when I left her shop- I thought I would wear my wig a month or so until I had a few inches, b/c I didnt have and inch, but when I got home my husband, who I can tell u hated my hair, hated my decision, and hates nappy hair, said- he thought it was neat enough- He said you don't need the wig- it brought out features that weren't as obvious...now don't get me wrong- it still took him a while to get use to it- he has the mentality that straight hair is what's supposed to be, but I'm very strong in what I believe- and I remind him that what is supposed to be is what God made and that is who I am before chemical and man-made changes and that continues to strengthen me in my journey.....I think the more you embrace the new you.....alone, by yourself, and just look and the beauty that God has made you.....Embrace yourself for who you are, and not what society thinks beauty should be it will become easier...I wish you all the luck and determination!!!
Tisha
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February 15, 2010
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