Should I say open wound.  There is nothing inside me that is not angry. 

Ok so I trimmed my ends last weekend, and my twist look a lot better.  I am unable to keep my hands out of my hair and I am starting to fall in love with my nappy hair.  My mom really hates it and told me yesterday that my hair was nappy (negativity brush off).  I feel that I am holding my own and lovin it.

Greetings, my name is Life and I'm new to this site.  I have been locking for over 10 years and have been a loctician going on 8 years now.  I have to say that I truly love what I do and look forward to learning and sharing with other natural sisters and brothers as well....Keep it real!!!

I've found myself in the situation of having to really analyze my relationships with people. I have to ask myself: "What do I gain from knowing and interacting with this person and what is it COSTING me?" I've found out that a lot of people fail or simply refuse to ask themselves those questions, and they usually end up hurt in the end. Some may think it's selfish to ask such questions, and they may add that it's not polite to itemize your relationships. But this isn't simply noting the give and take for the sake of keeping score. This is taking a personal inventory of your dealings with others for the sake of personal security!

I really get frustrated when I'm talking to a friend or relative that doesn't understand their own emotions. It really 'grinds my gears' when people say things like, "I don't know why I love him/her" or "I don't know why I did/said that!" I know that there are SEVERAL unknowns in the world, but our own feelings shouldn't be one of them! We go through life making most of our choices based on thoughts, feelings and emotions that we haven't analyzed, and when some of those choices don't work out for our best interest, we blame it on the other factors that led to that choice, instead of considering that we should have been sure of how we really felt before moving forward in the first place.

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I just joined the community and  stumbled upon it while looking for ways to care for my natural hair and my kids hair. I have had a relaxer my entire adult life, but last year I made the decision to stop perming my hair. Braids literally hurt me, so not being a glutton for pain, I went the route of wrapping my hair and wearing a wig. I hadn't had a perm since maybe October, so Saturday nite, I told my fiance to just cut it.

 1. I use only conditioner to shampoo(cleanse) my hair ( Aussie's smooth conditioner).

K, this is my first Blog ever, in life.  So I guess I'm just supposed to talk about whatever.  Well, I came upon this website and though it was pretty informative.  I am really contimplating going natural again.  I don't feel like I am me with relaxed hair.  Though I have had a relaxer for the majority of my life, and a natural for just 2 years, I felt comfortable and ME that way.  The only reason that I gave up on my natural is because I straightened it a couple of times and then it wouldn't curl again.  At the same time I was talking to this dude, who is now my boyfriend of 2  years and he suggested that I perm it, I complied.  Damnit, why did I do that, now I can't talk myself into going back.  I went drastic last time and cut off all of my hair now I don't think I can get the balls to do it again.  Plus I am working now, at the time I was in college and didn't care.  Now I gotta conform to corporate America, "the man."  I live in the suburb of Kansas City, Kansas and people do not like, "different" here.

Hello NHCG Community,